Wednesday, April 14, 2010
lets go the kindness way.
like any other usual day, i hop on the train after school with anticipation to get home asap to get a cool shower. man, its hot for sure. a story began, began right in the train...
the moment i went in the train, i look around for a spot to sit and rest my tired shoulders on. many people came in later than me but man, their actions were real fast! they rushed and stamped their butts on the limited seat. and there i was, standing up with my heavy bag on my weary shoulders :( ( it wasnt so bad la.)
then the next stop, admiralty. yeah finally can rest! a seat! ( yar la, whatever.the auntie attitude) ok so like the others, i sat down and get out my book to read. yeah! new magazine to read. as i flip the pages, i notice an old uncle walking in too. i was about to give up my seat, but a lady beside me did. ( so gracious right..) Then a lady carrying a baby walked in with her elderly mother too. what surprises me was that, without hesitation, the old uncle stood up and gave the seat to the lady carrying the baby. they had a little awkward debate on "u should have the seat, not me". and after which, the lady lost, and she sat down after much persuation from the old uncle. how nice of the uncle!
at once, i stood up and gave my seat to the uncle. but, the old uncle once again push the seat to the elderly woman. (actually she's not old, infact younger than the uncle. around 50. not really elderly). anyway, the auntie was kind enough and let the uncle have the seat. so he sat down.
oh did i mention, there was another auntie with the lady too. probably her aunt or sth. anyway, she's old too. ( there seems like there are many old people taking the train nowadays. the gov should increase the number of priorty seats. lol.) so this auntie, the lady's mom and me stood up as there were no seats.
"khatib". another available seat came. again without hesitation, the uncle ran for that empty seat to give up his seat to the lady's mom, so that she could sit tgt with her daughter and grandchild. she sat down. after which, another empty seat came, i was expecting myself to stand till i reach braddell. but a kind lady B pulled my bag gently, i turned back and she make signals that i should have that empty seat since i gave up mine. (how nice of her) but i was thinking since i can stand, why not just let the others who are more tired than me have it. so the lady's aunt who was still standing then, got the seat.
"yio chu kang". another passenger left. that seat which was empty is just nice beside the lady with the baby. so the auntie left for that seat just so she could take care of the baby too. looking around, nobody else, i sat down at the last empty seat.
all these while, i did not know this whole story scene is captured all in the lady B's eyes. she spoke to me and told me i did a great job and expresses to me how she feel disgusted about young ppl not letting seats to elderly. well i feel encouraged of course. but this is A VERY SMALL ACT which i can help. there was one teen in the train then, who was seated at the priorty seat who did not gave up his seat when he saw the old man pushing seat to the lady with the baby. so lady B told me ppl like him only avoid eyes and continue to pretend to look down. before she alight, we wave good bye.
wow. firstly, im so amazed that an elderly man actually gave up seats to a person younger than him. whats more is that he did it three times. 2nd time he initiated the lady's mom to sit, 3rd time, he move away to another empty seat so as the lady and her mom could sit tgt. that uncle is really amazing.
im so touched that kindness still exist. i wish it still did between the youngs. i wish the world is a better place where there are NO CHEATING, SCAMS but kindness spreading. then the world will be a better place especially for the elderly out there.
i was often cheated for my sympathy for ppl. recently, a lady came to my door and told me she needed $15 for an urgent need. she needed to take cab to tan tock send to see his father and to take keys from him so that she could return with the keys to get home too. she said she was late for work and needed to take cab soon.
of course i suspected her. i suspected as she claims to be my neighbour who move in not long and will return me the money once she get back. i suspected whether the story is true.
but, i still felt that whatever the case is, perhaps she really needed the money urgently. as i was taking my money out, the verse from the bible came to me. " when man ask you to run a mile with him, run two miles with him. when man ask you for ur top, give him you whole cloak". i forgot where this verse is found. but sth like that. this is not just talking about helping ppl, but talking about forgiving ppl even if they ask u to do sth that u really dont wanna do. some day, soon, the person will be touched by ur act of going further for them. and they will change, for the better.
at least this is what i feel, and my revelation relating to this incidence. i took $20 and pass it to the lady, cus i could not find exact $15. she told me she stay above and i did not bother to rmb the floor and unit as i trust that she will return me. even if she wont, i wouldnt mind as much. i feel that if she is gonna cheat, she must be driven to desperation in need of money to do such things. of course not everybody cheat becus they need money urgently, most ppl cheat becus of GREED. greed drive ppl crazy.
I told this incidence to my parents and they scolded me. man, i wish i hadnt told them about it. they call me stupid and blame me and stuff. as if i hadnt grown up. at least i felt what i did was right. my dad criticized me of always buying tissues from elderly. he felt that even if i dont buy, ppl will buy from them. worse still, he have the mindset that he rightfully owns his money and should not share it with anyone unless they help and worked for it. he said this sentence to me before. "i worked and earn my money myself, why should i share or give anyone who do not work for it?". if everyone think i like him, the wolrd will die. i mean the wolrd will be filled with rich ppl and the death of many poor ppl.
i mean we are his children of course he share his money with us. he is true that ppl should not laze instead work while they can and not rely on ppl for support. but, what about the rest who have no ability to work, no ability to take care of themselves? shouldnt we share our joy with them?
whenever i walk past ppl who r suffering, i feel the burden to share my love and care with them. it really breaks my heart to see them suffer yet i could not do much abt it.
i wish there are more caring, fillial and understanding ppl out there. the world will be a better place. is it right for us to discriminate the intellectually disabled ppl like those with down syndrome? they too, are normal ppl. perfectly normal ppl. it irritates me to see ppl shooing from them. sometimes its better to live in lives like theirs, which are simple and lovey. they are very friendly ppl! ever more friendly than u think! well at least from my experience of interaction with them in JAMS church. ( jesus for all mind).
the old, the young, the middle age come tgt and praise God so happily, even more purely, sincere and innocent than most of us out there!
i pray that the world would be a better place. i do not mean that im good or the correct example. infact im mean sometimes too. im not at all times fillial, i do not treat ppl right at times too.but im trying now, with my best to do what i can for these ppl out there. ARE YOU?
im expressing out on behalf of those unfortunates.
i really pray that there is such thing as eartly paradise where ppl can love each other and help each other in times of need just like they were blood related brothers and sisters.
start holding hands.
untill next time! ciaos and God bless! :)
Posted at 3:57 PM
Handwriten by Felicia.L
